Quick quiz, hot shot: What corporation has the most control over our lives?
Apple? Google? A shadowy cabal of the military-industrial complex?
It’s Hallmark Cards.
Few businesses have brought as much heartache, undue stress, expectations and extra obligations into our lives as the perpetual holiday machine.
And for a lot of guys, that means a lot of tough memories and struggles this weekend. Father’s Day may evoke the images of grilling out and exchanging loud ties for many, but for the men out there who had less-than-ideal relationships, absent fathers and rough childhoods, this day can be one big ball of angst.
If you are a son and a father yourself, then that can be a double-barreled blast of emotion. I know many guys who just don’t like Father’s Day, because it can be an annual report card about how you aren’t (and weren’t) good enough.
And church doesn’t help. While Mother’s Day sermons are often celebrations, Father’s Day sermons can be condemnations.
Fatherhood in our society does have a lot of flaws that need to be fixed – and Scripture shows us a lot of ways to be better. But Sunday can quickly turn into an avalanche of regret and self-criticism.
Don’t let this happen, men. If you feel these feelings creeping into your brain, I want to urge you to stop, think and relax.
We are men of God. We have problems and issues and areas to improve. But God meets you right where you are. You don’t have to wait to fix yourself first. Just be yourself first.
Here are some ways you can turn this weekend from shackles on your soul into a celebration.
* Read the Word: Read Ephesians and the letters to Timothy, as Paul works to instruct these struggling early Christian leaders about how to act: as husbands, fathers and men. Our problems are not unique to us here in 2014, but have been around for generations.
* Read this, too: I am a big fan of the blog The Art of Manliness. This week they published a powerful and thoughtful piece about bringing about generational change in your family. It’s will hit you right in the guts and can be a life-changer. Read “You Don’t Have to Be Your Dad” as soon as you can.
* Love your family: Holidays, gifts, dinners and activities just make everything so complicated. Just love each other. Your dads, your wife, your kids. Live inside that love – even if for just one day.
Happy Father’s Day.
“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:7 ESV