“A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.” – Proverbs 25:28 ESV
So in the past four weeks, we’ve thoroughly sprinted through the important donkeys of Scripture and what they mean in the life of a Christian man. (Don’t worry fans of Balaam’s donkey, your day will soon be coming.) In doing so, the goal was to lay out a foundation of what content of the site will be as well as re-enforce the filters I have set up to try to improve my life. Stress that “try to”. A recap: What does it take to have a Whole Donkey life?
- Practicing humility and servant leadership.
- Supporting your wife and family.
- Fighting the good fight – especially against your flesh.
- Being content and not coveting.
We are striving to escape the orbit around Planet Half-Ass and get ourselves closer to the Son. But we need to make sure we have the right navigation plans are punched in – as well as being continually updated – in order to get there. The trip from where we are and where we want to be is not a straight line. Why? Because the trip to where we are wasn’t straight either.
So what are the next step in putting the four foundations together? Filters and self-talk.
If you are in a zone of dissatisfaction with yourself, then you are definitely familiar with self-talk. Probably a lot of the negative kind. “Way to go, you screw-up,” et al.
If you are on this team, then let me tell you that it’s time to put all of that behind you. Climbing on the hamster wheel of self-destruction doesn’t do anyone any good. The people around you are impacted by your dark cloud weather system, your feelings get used to being crummy and then there’s God.
When you destroy yourself from within, God is like “Hey, what are you doing, I love that guy!”
That’s right, it’s time to flip the script and fill our heads with this simple idea: God loves you.
You are a person of such worth that the most powerful being in the universe has a special place in His heart for you. And when you talk smack about that person He loves, his love doesn’t leave. It just grows stronger.
Holding that thought in our minds and hearts is part of our battle, but we still need to take some action in how we interact with the world.
This is where I use these four Whole Donkey foundations of stories, lessons and scriptures to guide me. You can use these four or pull some from your own path through the Word. When I feel a wave of poor mood, bad decisions or worse actions speeding toward me, I have begun to be very intentional about how I see things.
Is what I’m doing humble and Christ-like? Am I being a servant leader to my wife, family and business colleagues?
Am I fighting against my flesh as best I can – in a Samson-like effort? Am I content with what God has given me?
This moment of pause allows God’s love to pour into the gap.
In that precious thought allow God and yourself to both say “Yes” and “I love you.”
Keep going. Keep trying.