This is a guest post from the wonderful Joshua Rivers. Josh, from Oklahoma City, runs the must-read and must-listen-to-podcast Quality Living Made Simple. Check out all of his great content here.
We have the tendency to hurry up and rush through everything in life.
I got my driver’s license on my 16th birthday. The examiner gave me a perfect score and called me a defensive driver. I had only been behind the wheel for a month, so I was probably more scared than defensive.
That title, however, was short lived. I got my first car shortly after that – just a little Hyundai Excel. It was not a racecar by far, but I pushed that little thing to the limit on my startups. I would see the light turn green and then floor it! I felt that there was no need wasting time getting up to the speed limit.
Fast forward a couple of years to when I was in Bible college. I remember one of the staff members getting up every orientation and reminding the students not to go too fast down a side street leading to the church and college.
“The speed limit is 25, but I would go 15.” He would then describe the little children that lived on that street and their capacity to wander into the street.
I didn’t think too much about the kids, but complied with the request. It wasn’t until I had my first child I realized the magnitude of it. “What if that was my kid?”
It brought new perspective.
While I’ve learned to control my speed better in driving, I still have the tendency to rush to finish things. In the process, I forget about relationships and focus on the task. As the old saying goes, we need to slow down and smell the roses.
Slowing down will change your perspective
The scenery looks different at 70 MPH than it does at 30 MPH. At a slower speed, you can see more of the details of the buildings, trees, etc. You can observe more about what it going on.
You can get more than just a quick overview of your situation. You can see how things may fit together better.
Granted, you may not get all the answers or understand everything, but it will be easier than if you were rushing.
Look at your family. Don’t just rush by them in the morning on your way to work. Don’t just glance at them at supper before sending them off to bed.
Look at them intently. Can you see one of your children running into the street and getting hit?
I know it’s not a pleasant thought, but it’s a changing thought. If you imagine that your children may be gone, you’ll stop to appreciate them. You’ll stop to listen to them. You’ll stop to talk to them. You’ll love you wife a little bit more.
So, are you rushing around in your life? Take the initiative to slow down and spend time – quality time – with your family.